The main thoughts that I took away from this speech:
Negative events generate a rush of energy which gets captured by the memory in a snapshot. Retrieving that snapshot from memory brings on the same neurochemical reactions in our body that were present when the event occurred. People lack emotional stimulation in their day to day life, and they go back to negative memories because they are addicted to the energy that those memories generate, so that they could feel
Body is our subconscious mind, it does not know the difference between a physical reaction triggered by a real event and a remembered or imagined one. Emotions elicit a physical response, which in turn elicits emotion; this circuit becomes hard-wired.
Habits are hard-wired circuits in our brains that eventually which form from
Changing something can feel very uncomfortable because new circuits need to be build while the old ones are trying to fire signals. New choices do not “feel right” because you would not have the same neurochemical mix in the brain, you are in a new state of uncertainty. The body always tries to return to the familiar biological state. That is why being in the unknown state is difficult for most people.
If you follow the body’s reactions, eventually it will create the environment around you to support your familiar state. The body becomes stronger than the brain, the servant becomes the master.
Meditation accesses the OS-level of our brain, where important changes are possible. When you close your eyes, you shut down external stimuli, so you can now create your own reactions. If the body cannot distinguish between a physical reaction from a past negative event or from a thought of that event, then the same principle is in play when you imagine a future event with a positive outcome. Your brain is no longer a record of the past, but a path to the future.
The hard part is to teach the body to respond to future events. Do not wait until you have success to feel successful, until you have money to feel abundance, until you are in a new relationship to feel loved. Do not wait for something outside of you to happen in order to trigger the emotion. Trigger it yourself. Stop being the creation, become the creator.
Your environment creates your thoughts, and then your thoughts create your environment.
If you do not wake up in the morning and think about the future that you want to create, then your mind will be left with the memories of the past, which is predictable, so you start having a predictable future, and your current environment will reinforce it.
Most people need some outside events to feel something, but you can change that
Your body is addicted to having certain neurochemical states at certain times a day. Train your body to stay in the moment, like you tell a dog to stay, do not react during those hours.O
Our bodies are addicted to strong emotions like love, hate, judgement, jealousy, being a victim. We use our boss to satisfy our judgement addition, our enemies to satisfy our anger addiction, etc. To make a positive change, you have to change yourself first. If today I took your ex-husband and shoot him to the moon so he cannot come back, that will not change your life, you still have to do the work of change! If you don’t, you will find the next guy to hate. If I took your enemy and made him disappear, you would create another one in his place.
We learn most about ourselves when we are uncomfortable, usually because we do not like being in the present moment, the body wants to go back to the familiar.
Insights, the aha moments are passive, they do not do anything in themselves. Even worse, they can be used as an excuse to slide into predictability, to the old habits, to avoid change, because when you understand the neurochemical process better, you can be better at creating an excuse for it.
Our bodies are designs to use stress to avoid danger or to get something, but the stress is supposed to be intense and short-lived, like a sight of a predator at a distance. But what happens if the stress is near and constant, like a hated co-worker sitting next to you whole year long? What happens is disease. No organism can survive a prolonged and constant stress.